The most beautiful phase of being women is said to be the experience of motherhood.
A child being carried a feeling only we can cherish all are life. But when a shift of a beautiful experience turns into a nightmare with the knowledge of a void in the life of a mother, it broke spirit like none other.
It is different to each woman as to how she gets through it.
It is clinically said that a miscarriage is medically common but for the hopeful mother and her family it is anything but common .The psychological bearing of an empty womb in a matter of minutes however far along you are takes a toll. Surprisingly the body heals a bit faster than the mind and recovers its normalcy .
I and my husband found it hard to communicate as you attempt to come to terms with what’s happened.
Try to give yourselves time to mourn. It’s natural for one or other of us to worry about saying the wrong thing, but after talking to each other felt much better.
A lot of support from my friends and family made up for a huge amount of help that my mom gave to get over such a difficult time.
Inspite of all of there for me coping my own feeling was so difficult, mechanisms to grieve for the lost child with the hope of becoming a mother again and enjoying the company of the child. Taking part in diversions from the incident is the first step towards making a recovery.
The shift in being pregnant and the next day of not being pregnant without a baby in your arms makes the body vulnerable to hormonal changes and affect your brain .A steady and slow recovery however slow it maybe is appropriate.
Conditions like postpartum depression learned worried my husband and he be aware of its immediate symptoms .
The mind being the most powerful organ is the only tool you can use to come out of that state of loss. No understanding of the reason for a miscarriage especially when everything is going right is the toughest experience for me.
Speaking out is the most effective way to vent out my frustration about my ability to make sense of the whole scenario.
Words and sentences from your well wishers like “maybe it was not meant to be” or “everything happens for good” or”fate has its own way of deciding what’s best for you” was pondered upon me with a serious thought .
At the end of the positivity and law of human nature to look for a better for myself and family,I decide to take it on. Thinking who no tomorrow will hold good for us, and will drove me get over such bitter times along with a lot of kindness and support from my loved ones.
Today I thank my Lord my husband and my family, who took me thru that time and today I’m a happy mom to a cute handsome boy…
Never loss hope, some things are ment only for right time.